10 reasons that become the reason for quarrel in the house – There is a fight between husband and wife over these things

Do you argue with your partner? I do. If you don’t, frankly, you’re weird. Or passive aggressive. Or just passive. Or all three. It doesn’t matter – the thing is, partners disagree. Perhaps the disagreements don’t make it even to the argument/discussion stage – but the disagreements remain. I expect most relationships have much the same arguments most of the time.

Here’s my guess at the top 10 reasons for relationship conflicts:

1. Husband puts his likes and dislikes first
2. The small talk or choice of the wife ignores the desire.
3. Husbands ignore complaints, if they insist on their complaints, they make an issue.
4. Husbands drink, gamble.
5. Do not pay expenses on time.
6. Doubt talking to maternal relatives on mobile.
7. Mother-in-law and sister-in-law interrupt on the matter, find out the shortcomings in the work.
8. If you oppose anything, then the husband supports his family.
9. In-laws demand additional dowry.
10. Husbands come home late, on asking the reason, they get involved in quarreling.

It’s easy to take each other for granted when life gets in the way but try these to keep the spark sparking and the person you love close:

1. Notice the little things.
2. Say thank you, often.
3. Tell them they’re wonderful.
4. Acknowledge what you love, even if it’s just the way they look in a white t-shirt.
5. Listen with your eyes.
6. Make them a cup of tea.
7. Say ‘good morning’ or ‘goodnight’ as though it’s good because of them.
8. Throw a ‘you’ on the end of ‘Hello’. It makes ‘Hello’ sound like you mean it.
9. Be affectionate.
10. Praise or compliment them in public.
11. Send a text: ‘Missed you today.’
12. Kiss slowly. And often.

It makes a difference.

Top 10 Things You and Your Wife Fight About

The majority of a married couple’s conflicts usually center again and again on the same points of tension. You don’t communicate well enough. She doesn’t really listen to what you have to say, anyway. You spend too much time working. She spends too much, period. On and on it goes. Well, it’s time to call a cease-fire. Here are the top 10 things that lead to couples fighting.

1. Money
2. Family Communication
3. Children
4. Intimacy
5. Time
6. Priorities
7. Jealousy
8. Religion
9. Politics
10. The Past

Here are some ways to fuel an emotional connection:

• Talk regularly.
• Call for the sake of it.
• Ask about their day, and listen to the answer.
• Notice when they’re upset.
• Notice when they’re happy.
• Listen when they talk.
• Just because something doesn’t seem important to you, doesn’t mean it isn’t important to them.
• Acknowledge what they are feeling.
• Laugh. At yourselves and with each other.
• Know what’s happening in their world. Don’t just assume that you do.
• Be responsive: When the world is driving them crazy, be the soft place, velvety place for them to curl into.
• Be vulnerable. Open up and let your partner be there for you too.

This is difficult if you have small children (or bigger ones – tell me about it!) but if you can just try someone a little out of the ordinary it will be worth it. Here are some ideas:

• Surprise them with things they love – her favourite magazine, his favourite ice-cream.
• Bring home her favourite bottle of wine and share it with her.
• Bring him a DVD he loves and watch it with him.
• Make dessert.
• Hang out together, not just next to each other, but together.
• Send an email asking him/her on a date with a list of restaurants (or take-away) to choose from.
• Leave a note on the windscreen. Just because.